Listening to the rabbi

I was listening to a rabbi (teacher) talk about generational sin. One of the things he spoke of was eating disorders. Having suffered with some eating disorders myself, my ears perked up.
He said that it is all about control. People who were over-controlled by a parent tend to have problems in this area. It is a way of having control over yourself that no one else can mess with. Like they can badger you into eating, but they can't make you digest it!
In teens, it is about rebellion. You know the drill.
In adults, it is about life feeling like it is not being run by you. Making your weight go down 30 pounds in a month, you feel like you have some power. You are not happy with your life. You want to change things, but you can't. You want to control all the people around you but they don't cooperate. Your hair is gray, your bills are overdue, your kid didn't make the honor roll, the dog pooped on the floor! No matter how many tirades you carry on with, they just don't knuckle down to you and your demands. Everything seems out of control. In truth it is just out of YOUR control and this is what you can't deal with. Eat a huge dinner so you look normal to everyone and after dinner barf it all into the toilet. Who cares if your teeth are rotting out? At least you won't get fat. No, on the contrary, you will get skinny! As skinny as you want and they can't stop you!
The rabbi spoke only a couple of sentences about it but my mind has been kicking it around for hours since.
I had two bouts with purging. Both times it lasted a couple of months. Both times I had experienced emotional trauma just before it hit. Thankfully, both times I stopped without needing any kind of treatment. (I have no faith in the medical community and I think, had I gotten professional help, I'd be on meds and still battling the problem.)
I know a control-freak who is like Herr General around her house and is always finding reasons to yell at her hapless family. She is as skinny as a rail. She orders her husband around like a slave in the old south. She complains to her ever-present mother about all of her misery. And her over-controlling mother gives her advice on how to manage her household with an iron fist and feeds into the whole thing by pointing out the faults of all the miserable, ungrateful family members. It's a sight to behold!
Little do either of them know that the more they want to control all the people around them the more helpless they feel. There you see why it is called a generational curse. But it is not passed on just by environmental factors; it is also passed by DNA. So even if the younger shrew was adopted by someone else she still would have had the shrew gene. And unless she "repented" purposefully, she would also pass it on to her daughters. In fact her oldest daughter already show the sign of shrewhood. She is very bossy with all those around her, even her father, and she is only 14. To some people it may appear she is mature and responsible, however she is trying to control things which she has no business controlling (her father, for instance). When she gets into the real world and sees that not everyone wants to follow orders, she will exhibit physical and emotional signs of frustration, such as eating disorders, panic attacks (which both her mother and grandmother experience), and who-knows-what-sort of relationship problems.
I also had a controlling mother and I was just like the two shrews I described. I repented to YHWH and I am still working on it... daily. I divorced three husbands who I couldn't control totally. If there ever is another husband, I will work on being a partner instead of a boss.
Enough about this. I've got to go bake some bread. Oh yeah... Happy Thanksgiving. Don't forget to thank God for all the everyday things... like just the freedom to read stuff on the internet! There is always plenty for which to be thankful if you stop and think... Bless you.